Instead of a video today, here is a link to the TODAY shows article on teenagers and how selfies provide them with a confidence boost:
To end the week of #loveyourselfselfie it is all about where the insecurities begin, in the teenage years. High school is such a tough time for anyone. You have to deal with everyone judging you for every move you make. You have to deal with the populars, and wanting to be apart of the group. Everyone is in a clique. Which one are you a part of. The nerds? The gothic? The weirdo’s? The rule breaker’s? Not only this we are judged on how tall we are, how much we weigh, what our hair looks like, do we have acne?, braces?, what we wear? Life is brutal in high school there is no doubt about that.
For this post I want to talk about some of my insecurities in high school. I was always pretty shy in high school. I didn’t really have a whole lot of reasons for this I just didn’t have much to say. I was one of those people who kind of just sat back and watched everyone. I guess watching all my classmates judge each other and talk about each other, I was scared to be judged. In fact I only really hung out with friends from surrounding schools.
As far as body image I had a huge acne problem. This was my biggest insecurity. I wore tons and tons of foundation by the time I was a sophomore. I hated the acne, it made me so angry that I didn’t want to look at my face because it was a constant put down. I then started seeing a dermatologist that year, but nothing seemed to work. It made me feel ugly sometimes to be honest.
I was also insecure about being in a bathing suit. I was never fat and I knew I was not fat, but I had done competitive gymnastics for years and well I had some nice arm muscles haha! But I most of my friends were stick thin, so this made me insecure about not looking the same as them. I mean like I said I was not fat or even close to overweight but I had broad shoulders, wide hips, and not the flattest stomach. I remember going on a trip to Georgia with some friends and not wanting my picture taken in my bathing suit.
And where did all this insecurity come from. The media! It has always been there and continues to get worse. Teen age girls want the model bodies because that is what they are taught to look up to. That is what they are taught to look like. They strive to look like. When in reality there are far more important things to worry about than what we look like, we are still developing at that age and we shouldn’t even look like women, which is the great thing about growing up! We should embrace it and enjoy it! You only get to be young once and there is no reason to be anything but confident in ourselves! So if I could go back in time and tell my teenage self something, it would be embrace your qualities. Embrace what makes you different! And love yourself through all it’s changes. Because confidence is the most attractive thing you can show and be!
Did you have insecurities in your teenage years?
Did you experience bullying as a child based on your looks?